Submitted by Dennis:
Kate was a third grade teacher who I met on the Internet. On our first date, she announced that she hadn't had an intimate relationship in three years.
"That's rough," I told her.
She said, "I'll probably go three more years without it."
I asked her why and she said that she wasn't actively looking for it. I said that since she was out dating, then her chances would likely increase.
To that, she said, "Not as long as I'm dating you."
Ouch. That wasn't nice. What do you say to that? I said, "We can stop the date now if you're not having fun." We were out on a walk and it would have been easy and painless.
She said, "No, no. Let's do the same old dinner and movie thing. We're already out and you're probably expecting that. Let's see if you can win a kiss from me."
I told her, "No thanks. I think I'm done. See you around," and went back to my car.
She followed me, shouting, "Hey! What's your problem, you moron?"
I turned and asked her what the point of continuing a date would be. She said, "You don't just leave a date like that! Idiot!"
I said, "It stopped being a date just a couple of seconds ago. I can leave whenever I want."
She shook her head, completely at a loss. She was able to stutter out, "Y-you're just like the rest of them!"
I said, "So are you," and left her there.
"You're just like the rest of them"
ReplyDelete...and your response was, "So are you" ????
The rest of who!?
You guys sound perfect together...bitter & lonely
Your response to her "You're just like the rest of them" was .... "So are you?" Wow...that was weak.
ReplyDeleteYou guys sound perfect together...fragile and bitter.
Wait, so you only consider it a date if there is sex involved? That's sure what it sounds like. As soon as she said she wasn't going to have sex with you, you were ready to end it. I admit, she was a little rude and obviously didn't have high expectations for the date, but that just gave you the perfect chance to do something different.
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ReplyDeleteYou forgot to read the part where the girl implied it would be easy to respect abstinence for 3 more years with this guy. That's about the most insulting thing you can say to someone. "Hey, I don't wanna have sex for the next 3 years, so I want to date you since you're fuck ugly! It will make it easy, we are a perfect match!I Love you!"
And you forgot to consider that a date is usually the first step to a possible serious relationship. Would YOU get serious with a guy who'd say right off the bat that he might not have sex for the next 3 years?
This date was a waste of time for the guy, no matter if the guy expected sex on a first date, or expected sex in a serious and NORMAL long-term relationship.
I think Dennis handled the situation beautifully. What Kate said to him was not only rude but insulting as well. Further, she was acting like she was God's gift to men, despite being presumably a giant cock tease for 3 + years.
ReplyDeleteThat's one of the few good bad date stories I read on this site. Way to go buddy.
ReplyDeleteWhat an awful date!
ReplyDeleteI know a lot of people who don't have sex for a while. Its sad that it has become "normal" for people to sleep around. Maybe she just wanted to wait until marriage? I agree with Sarah, he should have given her the chance to see what was really going on. It sounds like he cut out as soon as the possibility for sex went out the window. Maybe she was nervous, and certainly could have handled it better. I think both of them are tools to be honest.
ReplyDeleteI'm a woman. News flash: we love sex just as much as men, but we are better at controlling ourselves in order to use it as a bargaining chip. She was just playing games, trying to get him to chase her and woo her. That's why she told him he had to "win" a kiss. She is immature and not worth anyone's time. Yes, some people wait a while for sex. But, three years? Give me a break. He was wise to walk off on her.
ReplyDeleteI too am a woman and I think this girl had more going on than what meets the eye. It seems to me like something happened to put her off sex. Maybe she had a bad experience, maybe she was abused, maybe she found religion, who knows? The thing is, this guy didn't stick around long enough to find out. He cut out as soon as she said no sex. Winning a kiss sounds to me to be flirty, showing the guy that just because she doesn't want to have sex doesn't mean she's no fun. Maybe he took it the wrong way, or maybe she meant it the wrong way. Honestly without us being there, we have no way to determine what really went down. Stop judging. I feel bad for both of them. Obviously they both have some issues.
ReplyDeleteYes means yes and no means maybe. GIrls play games and that's that.
ReplyDeleteThe subject of her not having sex in 3 years came up early, almost like a bait. She said she might not have it for another 3 years, that seems like it was her way at self-depreciating humor. I don't think she meant it that she wouldn't have sex with him for 3 years, just in general. the 'lets see if you can win a kiss from me' was an opening, she made it perfectly clear that he had a chance at that, and judging by her lack of sex for 3 years possibly an opening (HA!) to get laid. the guy had an attitude. girls play around and flirt but he was to busy taking everything literally to realize he might have had a chance. or he assumed no nookie so he bailed.
ReplyDeleteHA! see ya in 2012?
ReplyDeleteI can't believe all the women commenting that her head games were just being flirty and coy. She was a passive-aggressive, nasty bitch to him. She flat out told him that she wasn't attracted to him with the "Not as long as I'm dating you" comment. Then she brushed off their date as something she'd rather not be doing, but they might as well get it over with because he's "probably expecting" it. This is why we get a bad rap for head games, ladies. When you see this kind of behavior, you shouldn't support it.
ReplyDeleteKate was a third grade teacher who I met on the Internet. On our first date, she announced that she hadn't had sex in three years.
ReplyDeleteNICE BIT OF TMI.
"That's rough," I told her. She said, "I'll probably go three more years without it."
I asked her why and she said that she wasn't actively looking for it. I said that since she was out dating, then her chances would likely increase. To that, she said, "Not as long as I'm dating you."
OH, THAT'S SUBTLE. ARE YOU TRYING TO MAKE ME FEEL GOOD HERE? WITCH WOMAN! YIKES.
Ouch. That wasn't nice. What do you say to that? I said, "We can stop the date now if you're not having fun." We were out on a walk and it would have been easy and painless.
BRILLIANT (AND THIS IS ME LEAVING...)
She said, "No, no. Let's do the same old dinner and movie thing. We're already out and you're probably expecting that. Let's see if you can win a kiss from me."
AS. IF.
I told her, "No thanks. I think I'm done. See you around," and went back to my car. She followed me, shouting, "Hey! What's your fucking problem, you asshole?"
CURRENTLY? HOW TO GET THE SMELL OF YOUR NASTINESS OFF MY CLOTHES.
I turned and asked her what the point of continuing a date would be. She said, "You don't just leave a date like that! Asshole!"
AND YOU DON'T TELL YOUR DATE THAT YOU THINK THEY SUCK AS A DATE EITHER. 'ASSHOLE'!
I said, "It stopped being a date just a couple of seconds ago. I can leave whenever I want."
She shook her head, completely at a loss. She was able to stutter out, "Y-you're just like the rest of them!"
MEANING ASSHOLE GUYS WHO WILL NOT PUT UP WITH HER VERBAL ABUSE AND ALL-AROUND-ASSHOLE-ISH-NESS?
I said, "So are you," and left her there.
GOOD. ANOTHER DUMB YET UBER SELF-ABSORBED BITCH WITH NO MANNERS - LEFT IN THE LOT. YOU GO BOY!
Thanks for the play-by-play breakdown, Cynica. Especially helpful since I hadn't just read the story on the blog seconds ago.
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