Date Number Two

Story Sent in by Madison:

Roger took me out to lunch and then to a local museum that I hadn't been to since I was little. He was a nice guy who kept the conversation going and at the end of the date he asked me if he could see me again and I told him that he absolutely could.

We chatted over email and over the phone over the next week and a half and arranged date number two. We agreed to meet at a nearby seasonal carnival and I looked forward to walking around it, going on rides, and eating lots of fried dough. Mostly, I looked forward to seeing Roger again.

So you can imagine my surprise when a guy who had to have been almost twice my age (and twice my weight) lumbered over to me at the carnival where I waited and said, "Hey Madison. Good to see you again."

I had never seen this guy before in my life. I asked him who he was.

"I'm Roger," he said.

This guy was definitely not Roger. He was a different person. He was older, taller, larger, and even had a different voice than the Roger I had previously seen. I said, "You're not Roger. Who are you?"

He sighed and said, "This sometimes happens. I look one way some weeks and then look different other weeks. But I'm Roger. Go ahead and ask me anything about our first date or the emails we've written and I'll answer it."

I couldn't even believe that I indulged this guy, but I asked him what my favorite show was (we had had a long conversation about it), my favorite books, and the first two things I tried majoring in when I was in college (we had also spoken about that at length).

This guy, whoever he was, not only got everything right - he also volunteered extra details that I had discussed with Roger. I was totally losing it. The only explanation I could come up with was that Roger had told this guy everything about what we had talked about and was trying to gaslight me to some sort of extreme lengths. But I couldn't have it. I told the guy that I had to leave, and despite his claims that he was Roger (he definitely 100% wasn't - not even a little bit), I did indeed take off. I mean really. He looks different on different weeks? That was the best he could come up with?


The next post will be Tuesday.


  1. Maybe he's like Chameleon from the Xanth series. Her beauty and intelligence change depending on what time of the month it is.

  2. " I was totally losing it. The only explanation I could come up with was that Roger had told this guy everything about what we had talked about "

    Well... yes. The most surprising thing about this story is that you seem to have thought there would be a second explanation.

    1. Experiments have been made showing that if a person change mid conversation, but in a way that the subject cannot see how the change happened, most people will just carry on a normal. Some won't even notice, while most will feel something strange just happened, but dismissed what they see because the alternative, that the person changed in a split second, simply doesn't make sense. This is called change blindness.

      The situation makes so little sense (why on earth someone would play such a mean prank) that it is just a normal reaction for Madison to doubt her own memory and consider the possibility that perhaps her recall of Roger's appearance during the first date was distorted.

    2. I'll give you a second explanation. This was Roger. The first guy was a better looking friend.

  3. Is it just me or does there seem to be a dating "game" where the goal is to see how gullible an OP is. There seems to a couple where the OP is set up.

  4. Ahah! Found a vidéo on YouTube about it: https://youtu.be/VkrrVozZR2c

  5. Maybe someone should do a welfare check on Roger and make sure his body isn't tied up and bound somewhere. Maybe that extensive information wasn't given willingly....

  6. Roger's better looking friend was the stand-in for date number 1.

    So odd that they thought they could switch back.


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