Submitted by Greg:
The night before my date with Dana, I had slept at a male friend's place in the city, as I didn't live too close by. I had my backpack with me, and brought it on the date.
When Dana and I met up, she asked me about the backpack, I gave her the above explanation, and no more was said about it.
At dinner, we sat in a booth, and I put the pack next to me. Conversation was pleasant enough, although she asked me twice (within the space of five minutes) what I had been up to the prior night. My answer both times was the same.
I excused myself to go to the bathroom. When I came back, our food had been delivered to the table, but I was further delivered an uncomfortable surprise: Dana had opened my bag, gone through it, and was flipping through my calendar, as if it was a dime store novel.
I grasped it from her hands, but she pulled it back towards he chest.
"Who's Jenny?" she asked, her eyes flashing with distrust, "It says here that you had a 'playdate' with her last week."
"My goddaughter. I babysit her. She's six. Can I have my calendar back?"
She frowned and flipped to another page. I grabbed for it again, she protested, "No!" but let go after a short struggle.
I took a moment to gather my thoughts, then put the calendar back into my bag, shouldered it, carried my plate to the restaurant counter, asked for them to pack it up, paid for my dinner alone, and left her there.
seriously. psycho path. Glad you left her there.
ReplyDeleteIt took Elin years to discover that Tiger was not a feline but a pussy hound. The date described in the post above will never her man stray.
ReplyDeleteYou might think that normal men don't fall for psycho bitches, but if they didn't, how would the genes get passed on.
A couple of weeks ago I read a sex and relationship advice column in which a husband had written in to ask for guidance after his wife accused him of being unfaithful.
The couple had been engaging in a threesome with one of her girlfriends. He had intercourse with the girlfriend, but always ejaculated in his wife. One day he came in the girlfriend and the wife accused him of being unfaithful.
For some even the thought of straying is too much, for others a spoonfull of protein is a big deal.
It's sad to think of how she became that way. Yeah, maybe she's always been a little off, but maybe somebody really did a number on her. Not to say her behavior is warranted either way, just sad to think about.
ReplyDeleteSeven-thirty, sometimes there are also rules and understandings that would lead a couple to feel that ejaculating inside another person would be considered unfaithful, even if they were allowed to play together / separately. There is a couple that I hook up with from time to time that have the rule "no kissing." Practically anything else goes, but they only kiss each other, not me. I had a rule with an ex that we were allowed to do anything but give blowjobs to other guys (both of us are male). Perhaps the rule in your scenario was "you can bang her, but I want your love mayo."
ReplyDeleteI agree with 9:26; fidelity is a state of mind, not a particular action. I've known couples for whom lunch alone with a member of the opposite sex was considered borderline infidelity, and I've known couples where sex with other people was totally acceptable but who had their own promises that couldn't be broken. As long as everybody agrees, it's all good.
ReplyDeleteHowever, I would say that people who believe that first dates are the point at which total body-and-soul faithfulness becomes required are rare.
There's been a recent string of "You agreed to go on a date with me hence we are instantly in a monogamous long term relationship" stories - and, if I may, I think it's the exact type of impulse as the "You agreed to go on a date with me so here's my wang" stories. First dates aren't a green light for everything you've been waiting to do - there is no Instant Heart's Desire (just add water); thing must be built. So in my opinion someone bitchcakes jealous like this dame is no better than Mr. Hi-Here's-My-Schlong.
ReplyDeleteI bet she has a guilty conscience about dating multiple people simultaneously. She tried to justify it to herself by finding a guy who does the same, but got pissed when one didn't turn up right away.
ReplyDeleteIf you're having sex with people other than your spouse, you're not really married. And you're a creep. Plain and simple. I just watched a guy get fired yesterday because he bragged about swinging online and used his real name. A client complained.
ReplyDelete"If you're having sex with people other than your spouse, you're not really married."
ReplyDeleteJust be sure you marry someone else who feels exactly this way about it and you're fine. The married people I know who have sex with other people think they're really married and that's what matters to them, not your opinion.
I'm with Fizziks on this one. I feel a little bad for the girl, since it's obvious something seriously damaged her sense of trust, but the OP absolutely did the right thing by not wasting any more time on this girl. Ugh. It literally makes my skin crawl to think about these hyper-jealous people refuse to give anyone the benefit of the doubt and have such strict rules about what is and is not acceptable. (She probably would have been jealous of the goddaughter had they continued dating, I bet.) Like 12:29 said, as long as all parties are in agreement about what is and is not acceptable, and it's not just one nutjob member of the group defining everything, it all works out fine.
ReplyDeleteOMG All these serious postings.
ReplyDeleteOP, obviously she was looking for sexual gratification. She hugged the calendar "to her chest" as a means to alert you to her needs. She mentioned the playdate, because you were apparently servicing other individuals sexually, but not her.
This was the time to lay your wang on the table and call her bluff.
She could have been the best you ever had.....
My first thought is why the hell would he bring a backpack with on a date? why couldnt he leave it at the friends house? having it with you on a date would bring up a lot of questions, like what is so important or valuable that he has to carry that thing with him everywhere. she obviously thought the same thing, thinking he had drugs or something in there and went for a look, finding his calendar. i think the OP brought too much baggage along on the date.
ReplyDelete^he probably wasn't going back to his friend's house after the date. Considering that he explained why he had it (multiple times), I don't see what the problem is there.
ReplyDeleteThe problem I have with this situation is that she clearly was looking for something and was determined to find it whether it actually existed or not. As a result, she ended up alienating and belittling someone she just met, someone who actually might have given two shits about her if she could have just hidden her insecurities for a couple dates.
God, what is with these girls who think one date automatically means that the guy is her boyfriend and belongs to her? Maybe she's had some bad experience, but that doesn't give her the right to snoop without permission and just jump to conclusions. Actually, I thought that she would assume the guy was gay for sleeping at a male friend's house.
ReplyDeleteI have friend who probably suffers from some light version of Asperger's syndrom. He is very good at his geek job. Good at sports. Has sense of humor. But his ability to read social situations is not 100%.
ReplyDeleteHis biggest trouble is women. Asking "does this mean we're an item?" on the second date, before even having sex, is something he has done. Trying to explain to him what turns women on and off (admittedly, I could use coaching, too) doesn't work. His mind is logical, but it goes in circles based on the wrong interpretation of social cues.
Not everybody is on an equal playing field when it comes to communication.
Why does he carry around a calendar??? Freak.
ReplyDeleteI bet it has fluffy kittens on it.
Why such a douche?
ReplyDeleteNext time take your bag with you to the restroom.
ReplyDeleteI'm thinking this is a clear cut case of "OP is a hobo". Let's read into his post a little more...Slept at a male friend's place (obviously he's crashing at the shelter in the city). Had my backpack with me (everything he owns is crammed into that stinking pack). I think having a calender with events marked in it is the most damning evidence of all. Everyone knows hobos use day planners.
ReplyDelete^ hehe. Looks like the OP's not the only one who came with baggage to the date, am I the only one who feels like some of these bad dates are kinda hitting close to home.
ReplyDelete7:30, we're all tired of hearing about your friend who supposedly has Aspergers. Unless you have a fuckin medical degree, why don't you keep your snide diagnoses to yourself?
ReplyDelete^His "friend" is "Frank"....and (gasp) himself!
ReplyDeleteGlad I'm not the only one who has a sneaking suspicion that "Frank" and "Seven-Thirty" are the same person. Maybe they're like Two-Face, and are split personalities of the same person!
ReplyDeleteOh wait, they're both pompous and boring. I guess they're the same personalities of the same person.
There could be thousands of Franks out there, eager readers.
ReplyDeleteFizziks and Nikki, ask the webmaster to check Frank's IP address. No good troll should go uncovered.
ReplyDelete^I've already asked Jared to reveal the secret identities of several people, but he's all "Blah blah blah I'm bound to confidentiality and morals and lameness wank wank wank."
ReplyDelete^Your baggage is still in demand! Is it still $20 to pretend my face is a window and your baggage is the squeegee?
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