Submitted by Jon:
I had already been on one date with Tanya, and we had a nice time. She seemed nice and fun, although nothing about her really excited me (at least as of yet) so I decided to try a second date with her. If anything could bring out more of her personality, I thought it would be going out with a group of friends, so I asked her if she'd be interested in going to a happy hour kind of thing on a Friday.
She didn't like the idea at all. "How does that make any sense?" she asked, "So you're asking me out with your buddies?"
I explained to her, "No. We can hang out for a little bit and then go do our own thing. I just thought it would be fun."
She asked me who would be there in particular, what each of them did, and how old they were. Exasperated, I finally said, "Want to just go out on our own?"
She said, "Thank you! It took you long enough to get it!"
I didn't like this game, so I told her that I'd be in touch, only I wasn't.
Worst abcotd story ever. And by worse, I mean, lame, boring and a date not worthy of this site. C'mon!
ReplyDeleteMeh, sounds like an average date story to me. It's only natural for a woman to feel uncertain about things like the dates buddies + lots of booze (happy hour) on the >second< date. And it looks like she just asked how old they were and what they do, pretty reasonable questions, depending on the situation - like, who would want to end up in a group of work buddies on their 2nd date with someone..?
ReplyDeleteOP you sound like a tool. That's a bit much for a second date. It's gotta be awkward for the girl when your with all your friends. She might feel like she has to fight for your attention or that you aren't as interested because you need other people there. If anything, you should have gone out with her alone on Friday night and then had a wild romp afterwards, but that's what a real man would do. Such as myself, I'm a stud.
ReplyDeleteWhatever. This chick sounds lame. If someone can't hang with your friends for a while, they're not worth getting to know. And if someone doesn't want me to meet any of their friends, I tend to just screw them and bail anyway.
ReplyDelete@10:27 - It's not that her questions were the problem, it's that she being indirect an playing a game. She was stalling and nitpicking until the guy made other plans instead of just saying that she wasn't interested. Otherwise, why say "Thank you! It took you long enough to get it!"
ReplyDeleteIf you don't want to do something, don't just act like a toddler and be brat until someone makes it ok. Use your words. I hate when chicks do this.
Good for her. Having a date hang out with friends seems a bit odd (unless you're 12).
ReplyDeleteCongrats - this sounds like your first date with a grown-up woman.
@11:09: Nope. That's actually how most woman communicate, seriously, if that was what was the bad date in this, then you could submit 1000 stories a day complaining about women saying one thing and meaning another.
ReplyDelete@11:22 - First, I am a chick (and hence might know how women communicate) and I hate when other chicks do this. That's *not* saying it doesn't happen. It's saying that it happens *a lot* and I find it maddening. I don't think it's too much to ask that women act like adults. If they don't, drop 'em. Srsly. They act that way because other people let them.
ReplyDeleteAlso, I dropped the anonymous mask and got a handle. You don't have to use my time.
@Fizziks - I agree with you I am a chick too and I hate the passive aggressive bullshit games women play. Say what you mean and don't act like a child, (it makes us adult non game playing women look bad) but then again I also don't think it is a big deal to hang out with a dates friends. I am usually one of the guys and can have fun in any situation so it really doesn't matter where we go.
ReplyDeleteListen Fizziks and @2:51, it's not just women who are passive aggressive, so knock off the gender-bashing, the boys don't need any help in that regard.
ReplyDeleteI would say that the story definitely sub-par regarding the humor, but absolutely a bad date. Ergo, it meets the minimum requirements for this site.
ReplyDeleteHow do you know the OP's friends were dumb, fat, disgusting, drunk hicks? Is someone projecting her anger about a bad date onto this forum?
ReplyDeleteI'm siding with the OP's date here. The OP is clueless as to the fact he insulted his date by suggesting hanging out with friends. Although the OP's date should have declined but didn't want to forgo the date altogether.
ReplyDeleteif you can't mix with his friends, you are not good gf material. adios was the right thing for him to say.
ReplyDeleteDude, don't you want to get to know her a bit instead of multitasking? I would not want to hang out with a guys friends on the second date! (After a few weeks, yes, but you are clearly not that into her. Was she supposed to feel flattered that you wanted to see your friends but you already had a date with her scheduled?)
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