Story Submitted by Clarence:

Mary and I were due to meet up for our date right after our respective workdays.  I had pulled a few strings to ensure that I would be out on time (as my bosses had a habit of keeping me up to an hour late some days), and we set a time and place.

At around 4:30, Mary called me and said, "I have to make it to the post office before it closes.  When will you be done at work?"

I told her, "Around five, but if you need to go to the post office first, then do that.  I can meet you elsewhere or a bit later, if that helps your schedule."

To that, she said, "Eww.  You don't make my schedule for me."

"I didn't.  I was trying to be accommodating."

She said, "Whatever," then hung up.

A minute later, she called back and said, "I'll meet you at 4:45 in the lobby of your building.  Don't be late."

I replied, "I can't promise that I'll be out before five, but I'll do what I can."

She said, "4:45.  Or I won't be able to make the post office," then hung up.

I don't like being ordered around, but perhaps there was a logical reason behind Mary's stress.  I was willing to give her the benefit of the doubt.  That day, however, was a busy day in my office (I'm an architect) and despite my best efforts, I couldn't make it downstairs until around 4:55.

When I arrived in the lobby, Mary was there, and she wasn't happy.  As I approached her, she glanced at her watch.

"It's almost five.  I'm going to miss the post office.  Thank you."

I said, "There's one not far from here.  We can make it if we hurry."

"We shouldn't have to hurry!  I laid out explicit plans!"

I said, "Your plans should have included listening to me when I said that I'd try my best to be out at 4:45.  We can stand here and talk or we can try to make it to the post office."

She said, "Again, trying to make my schedule for me.  I'm not really... I don't think this is going to work.  I don't respond well to orders, especially from some hotshot architect.  Maybe the coffee ladies in your office get off on it, but I have to get to the post office."

She hurried off, and I followed her for a few steps before realizing that she was a bitch.  So our evening was over before it even began.  Whatever she had to mail, I hope it was important.


  1. It took you kind of a long time to realize that, OP. You're better off.

  2. ^^^

    I could tell she was a bitch once I read the "Ewww. You don't make my schedule for me."

  3. Funny how there's a whole projection thing going on. How she complains about him doing what she is doing to her.

    But he also complains about her doing it. Makes me wonder how he interacted with her - could be his tone and such were not quite as neutral as it seems in print.

  4. ^I can believe that she was just as bitchy as he described, and he was just flummoxed by the behavior, and that's why he tried to be accommodating.

    However, I've noticed a trend wherein the OP writes the phrase, "I tried to give (him/her) the benefit of the doubt..." and how that usually means, "I stayed with this crazy (asshole/bitch) was longer than I should have."

  5. She has a need to assert her dominance, and was seeing if you'd be her boyfriend/slave.


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