The Fighter

Story Submitted by Avi:

Portia had offered to take me out to dinner for our six-month anniversary. She was a bit of a firebrand, but we liked spending time together, and our good times were good.

One detail: I have a younger brother, David, who had taken some time off from college in order to figure out what he wanted to do with his life. He had put the time to good use, volunteering at various charities. I was (and still am) proud of him. At the time, my folks were mortified at the idea of him quitting school.

Portia and I were on a walk before dinner when she asked me, "How's your mother doing?"

I said, "She's okay. We got into a fight over what David's doing with his life."

Portia groaned and strode ahead a bit faster. She muttered, "Again with the fucking fighting. Why are you always fighting with people?"

This was an out-of-the-blue statement. I couldn't recall a single other example of me fighting with anyone else, and I told her so. "Can you name a single other time that I've fought with someone?"

She said, "That's stupid. I'm not playing that game."

I said, "Why not? You made a statement. Back it up. Name one other time I've 'fought with people,' as you put it."

She said, "Too many times to count!"

I replied, "Then this should be easy for you. Name one."

She turned to me and yelled, "What do you call this? This is a fight!"

I said, "That you started based on an erroneous claim. Now back up your statement or we're through."

She said, "You don't mean that."

I said, "You started the fight, now finish it. Name one other time."

She said, "You're insane. I can't even understand what you're saying."

I said, "You were the one who said that I'm always fighting with people, and you can't even back it up."

She shouted, "Have you even been listening to me? I've given you dozens of examples!"

Portia was clearly nuts. Shame that it took me six months to see it. I took a deep breath, stepped back, and said, "I'll send you your things," then turned away.

She grabbed me and said, "What are you doing? You can't break up with me!"

I pulled away and said, "This isn't going to work. I—"

Portia screamed her throat out, and I ran off. She might have given chase, but I didn't stop to look. After several minutes, I finally did stop. She wasn't anywhere in sight. I went home, put all of her stuff in a box, and dropped it it off on her porch the next day.


  1. In my humble opinion, we're missing some pretty important parts of this story.

  2. ^ I agree. There was nothing funny about that.

    Still, looks like OP won his first fight.

  3. Asking people to list occurrences of the thing they are angry about is a stupid game, no-one can do that on the spot, she was reacting to an overall impression. Breaking up over her saying that he seems to fight a lot, even if she was wrong, is idiotic. OP should have asked her about it when both were calm.

  4. ^I agree. It seems a shame that, in the heat of a moment, he ended an enjoyable 6 month relationship over one fight. (Unless there is more story that we don't know)

  5. Does seem like an overreaction on OP's part, but he did qualify her as a "firebrand." This might have been the capstone on an already tumultuous relationship. They're both likely better off.

  6. the line that really stands out to me is: "...Now back up your statement or we're through." What? After 6 months, that commment causes you to say that!?

    Talk about a fucktard!

    I bet that there is more to this story and her side would be completely different from his and even after reading this, I'm on her side. He's an immature douche

  7. Hard to tell without having the whole story.

    But "Have you even been listening to me? I've given you dozens of examples!" after giving none doesn't seem all that sane.

    Oh, and screaming your throat out is not acceptable under any circumstances unless you or someone around you is under attack.

  8. It does kind of say something when the OP, doing the best to put across their side of the story, still manages to sound like a complete ass.

  9. Hmm...I don't know, if my significant other was being dismissive about something that mattered to me, I wouldn't take it as a good sign. Why ask if you're just going to be a jerk? If his alleged fighting bothered her so much, why not speak up earlier? Seems to me if she actually wanted to discuss it, she would have done so sooner, instead of waiting and making a comment and refusing to elaborate on it.


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