What a Deal!

Submitted by Sherry:

Polite is the word I'll use to describe Aaron's first impression.  He came across as very well-mannered and thoughtful.  First impressions, however, can be deceiving.

The first inklings I had that Aaron was a controlling type was at dinner.  I went to pour myself some water from a decanter on the table.  He asked me, "What are you doing?"

I said, "Pouring myself some water."

He replied, "No.  I do that."  So saying, he took the pitcher and poured the water for me.  At the time, it was off-putting, but I took it to mean that he was being nice.

When it was almost time to order, he asked me what I was going to get.  I mentioned a steak.  He said, "Are you sure you wouldn't prefer something like a salad?"

I informed him that I had eaten a salad for lunch.  Then he asked, "Was it a big salad?"

I replied, "I filled a bowl with romaine lettuce, tomatoes, onions, and dressing."

"Okay," he said.

We were in the midst of a lull during dinner when he looked up and said, "Good news: whoever marries me won't have to work."

"What if she wants to work?"

He shrugged.  "She'd be wasting her time.  I already make enough."  He raised his glass as if to toast, and I toasted him halfheartedly.  Then, he shot the kicker: "Her only job, so to speak, would be to see to my needs."

He must have caught my expression, because he hammered the final nail into his coffin with, "Which are few!"

I politely told him that, if he was serious, that I didn't think I was the girl for him.  He took it well, we finished dinner, and went our separate ways.  I can't imagine who would want to be with a guy like that in today's world, but I'm sure he'll find someone.


  1. At least he didn't try to hide who he was. That type of person happily absorbs the worthless gold diggers of society and thus makes things better for the rest of us guys.

  2. no work for the rest of your life, being pampered by a puppet of a husband? you missed a great opportunity

  3. Sounds like you are uptight. He was probably a gentleman and you didn't like it but had no problem with him paying the whole check and tip.

  4. I'm sure he could find half a dozen girls who would trade financial security for satisfying his few whims.

  5. A lot of 15 year old virgins read this site.

  6. you dodged a bullet, who in this day and time would even consider being a wife and mother?

  7. There are always so many touchy comments around here.

    She didn't like the dude because he wanted a housewife and would not respect her career ambitions? Not that hard to be put off, in my opinion.

  8. BAH! damn women and their aspirations.... we offer you the opportunity for a lifetime, and you turn it down. and we dont ask for much in return. maybe a sandwich, and a handjob here and there. whats wrong with you??

  9. It no longer matters which, but one parent needs to be home with the kids, at least for the first 14-15 years. Crying about careers is total bullshit, too many colleges offer online classes to not get an excellent education. People are just too frigging selfish to give their time to their offspring.
    The end result is a date who wants to rape and kill you.

  10. Folks, there's nothing wrong with being a housewife or househusband. I think the thing about him was his inflexibility to the idea that she would work or do anything other than serve him. Also, the water thing is weird. Before you know it he's telling you what to wear, when to suck, how to march, etc. You become a robotic sex slave/maid.

    Now if you're not covered in liquid latex and being suspended while Ministry plays "N.W.O" in the background, it might be a problem.


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