Furlough Day at the Hospital

Submitted by Thomas:

I messaged Jenna on a profile website and we had great chemistry... or so it seemed.

In person she was someone completely different. She seemed tired of me from the first second that she laid eyes on me. She would not shut up about herself and when I tried to interject, it was like she didn't know what to say, and so she went right back on, talking about herself as if I had said nothing to begin with.

I got tired of it and was ready to bring the date to an early close. Of course, this was before she finally said that she had talked enough about herself and wanted to hear about me.

She had a comment on everything I said. If I told her that I was a kids' soccer coach, she'd say that she hoped I wasn't planning on doing that as a career. I said that I liked to sing, and she said that everybody thinks that they can sing. I told her that I liked skiing, and she said that if I was going to go pro, I would have by now. I told her that I wanted to be a sports doctor, and she laughed and said that I'd make better money if I was an athlete.

My question was, why would she continue on a date with a guy with whom she's clearly uninterested? Either that, or she was planning to dislike me from the get-go, and maybe this was some passive-aggressive crap.

Either way, I got tired of it after a minute or two, and said that I had to go.

Then, the fun part came. She demanded to know when I was going to quit my job and take her out for a nice meal. What the hell was she talking about? I said that I had to go, and again, she said, "When are you going to quit your job?  And don't I deserve a nice meal?  I've been sitting here, listening to you for an hour."

What the hell?!  I had spoken for perhaps five minutes about myself.  I said, "I'll let you know."

The last words I heard her say were, "Quit your job soon."


  1. If you quit your job, how the fark are you going to take her out for a nice meal?

  2. You didn't look like she imagined that you would. Or at least, that's the only explanation I can think of for this person and for all the other postings on this site where someone who was fine with you online decided to act like a jerk the second they actually meet you.

  3. I just don't understand why people would be so intentionally nasty to dates they meet on the Internet who don't live up to physical expectations. There's no shame in feeling that a person isn't quite what you expected. If the difference is dramatic--a man is 5'7" tall instead of 5'8", for a tongue-in-cheek example, or a girl weighs 200lbs instead of the svelte 130 she claimed--then it should be okay to call the date off as soon as possible with a polite reason or even an explanation. If the difference isn't that dramatic but only mildly disappointing, why not try to go through the date pleasantly to see if sparks fly unexpectedly? If they don't, then end the night early. No harm, no foul.

    There's no need to be a raging, self-centered, psychotic cunt every time some Internet dreamboat doesn't live up to your hyper-inflated expectations.

  4. Whoa there Nikki, a one inch difference in a man's height is a dramitic difference? That's barely even noticable. 70 lbs is a big difference, but if you can tell that a person is closer to 5'7 than the 5'8 that they claimed, you must have some super human ability to judge spatial relationships... Really, that's a roughly 2% difference in height. No one can judge that simply by seeing something/someone without a side by side comparison. Even then most people would have trouble. Besides maybe he just measured him wrong (that doesn't make him particularly bright, but it doesn't mean that he was trying to deceive you). I wouldn't call off a date over an inch. That's just waaaaaay too superficial.

  5. I'm pretty sure she was being sarcastic, hence the "tongue-in-cheek" part...

  6. While the "tongue-in-cheek" bit directly afterward ought to have waved the red flags anon 3:26, it was also a direct reference to a past 'bad date' on the site. So cool your jets amigo.

  7. Anon 3:26 -

    Perhaps, 'nod, nod, wink, wink, Just joking, only kidding' would have met your needs?

  8. she had a table full of friends listening to the conversation, you have been had.

  9. so please answer the big question...

    did you quit your job yet?

  10. This does not add up, you say, "I got tired of it after a minute or two", then "I had spoken about myself maybe five minutes or so", then she complains "I have been sitting here listening to you for over an hour". I'm thinking the poor girl was numb with boredom after sitting and hearing you talk non-stop about careers and experiences you never had and never did. The biggest clue is "if I ......" before every statement. Meaning you make this shit up as you go and give only generalizations as evidence.


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