When Curiosity Fails

Submitted by Robert:

Leah and I were acquaintances from way back when. We had lost touch for years, but one day she called me out of the blue to catch up, and we arranged to meet.

I picked out a local coffee place and we had a very pleasant time at first.  Then, I casually asked if she was seeing anyone.

She asked, "What, you want to know if I'm available?"

I did, but I masked it with the standard, "Just curious."

She asked, "Did you think this was a date or something?"

I said, "No, of course not."

"Because it's not."


"It never would be.  Not with you.  Understand?"

This was starting to get insulting and I pressed her further.  "What's wrong with me?"

She said, "This was obviously a mistake.  Change of subject!"  We changed the subject and everything was fine until a conversational lull about ten minutes later.

Out of the blue, she said, "I would never go out with you.  Understand?  Never."

"What the hell is your problem?  Where is this coming from?" I asked her.

"I don't drink or smoke, either," she said.

"Okay," I replied.  I downed the rest of my coffee and ended the meeting as quickly as possible.

I have no idea what the problem was.  Did I really ask something wrong?  I don't think so, but maybe she once had a bad experience with a guy asking if she was seeing anyone.  I still have no clue about this.


  1. I don't think you did anything wrong. She sounds like a nutcase. You should be thankful that she didn't want to date you!

  2. Sounds like she was really badly hurt by someone else and took it out on you. It's awful when a good friend goes bad like that.

  3. It sounds like she heard something about you, probably involving smoking or drinking.

  4. Maybe she just didn't like you like that and wanted to be clear. Or maybe she didn't want you to get the wrong impression of why she originally contacted you.

  5. Perhaps you have a reputation or something?

    Still, emphasising the 'you' in the same way that executing prisoners of war from a hated enemy is somewhat rum.

  6. Why would she get all defensive like that? WEIRD.

  7. Pass on dude, she's not worth the energy. There is a reason why you two lost touch for years.


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