I'll Make Up Your Mind

Submitted by Trevor:

This wasn't a first date. It was a last date after over a month of dates.

Michelle and I had kissed once, on our third date, and thereafter she became very reserved. She wouldn't write to me as often, she wouldn't be as bubbly as she had once been, and she didn't seem to like spending time around me as much as she did at first.

I took her out to see Up, and afterward took her to an ice cream place. While we were sitting down, I asked her what was going on.

She said that she didn't feel right since I had kissed her, and that I had moved too quickly.

I said, "Why didn't you let me know earlier? Like shortly afterward?"

"I don't know. Why did you have to kiss me, anyway? It could've just been a hug. Kisses mean something. They're biological."

I said, "It felt right at the time, for me."

She countered, "Well, I've been going through hell ever since. You didn't have to kiss me. It could have been a hug. Do you agree?"

"No. If I wanted to hug you, I would have hugged you. You were just very attractive to me in that moment and it felt like the right thing to do. If I hurt you, then I apologize."

She said, "I don't want you kissing me again."

I said, "Okay. So we're done, then?"

"No.  I still want to date you.  I think."

I groaned. What was this all about? I can't see myself in a long-term relationship with someone who never wants to kiss me, and especially someone who doesn't know if she wants to also be in a long-term relationship. Maybe I'm superficial, and if so, then so be it. I need physical intimacy every now and again.

I said, "So how do you see this going?"

"I don't know. I just don't know."

If she needed time to work herself out, then that's fine. I just don't like being strung along, and I like women who have themselves figured out. Sorry. So I said, "Let's just be friends."

"I've slept with three guys this past month," she blurted.

I wasn't one of those three guys, so I said, "Well, then I think we have our answer."

She reached across the table for me and said, "But I really like you. I just... We should stay together.  I don't know."

"Well, I do. Let's just stay friends."

She seemed okay with that, but I haven't spoken to her in months. Why get myself sucked back into all that?


  1. Ugh. She felt out of control and wanted control over something. That something could've been you.

  2. the only way you should let yourself get sucked back into that is to go beyond kissing and let her suck you back in....otherwise...see ya.

  3. Never, ever, ever go back to that.

    Just imagine how much worse she could get.

  4. You sound like a nice guy...I'll date you lol

  5. A kiss on the THIRD date was too fast for her, yet she slept with three guys in one month.

    Someone needs to take her meds.

  6. Wait you can sleep together and not kiss? I'm confused...

    1. I had a one-night stand with someone whom I liked but didn't feel like kissing. It is possible. (And we both went into it knowing it was just sex for the sake of sex.)

  7. Maybe she's a prostitute? Julia Roberts and the whore that bit the ShamWow! guy's tongue off have made it pretty clear that bonin' is okay but kisses are too personal.

    Way to dodge a bullet, good sir.

  8. WHy get sucked back into that? So you can be #4!

  9. That made me laugh.
    "we're moving to fast"
    Yet, I can fuck 3 guys in a month.
    Hmm, How ironic.

  10. Trevor Trevor Trevor

    You should have just Put it in that Little Sluts Ass like she wanted!!!

    Just remember to go Slow kuz that's what she likes . . .

  11. "I've slept with three guys this past month," she blurted.

    End of conversation. He should have just stood up and walked away.


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