Submitted by Kimberly:
Ted was the first person I had ever met online and I was nervous about trying this new way of dating.
We met for lunch and I was relieved to see that he was cute and polite. We had a really good time, that is, until he told me that he didn't drink. His sobriety wasn't a problem for me but when I asked him why, he said, "Well, I am a police officer and I carry a firearm at all times. I don't think its a very good idea to be drunk whilst carrying a loaded weapon."
Me: "Erm... are you carrying a firearm right now?"
Ted: "Of course"
Awkward, awkward silence as I began to realize that my fear of being killed on an internet date wasn't so irrational after all. However, the rest of the date was fine and I naively decided his excuse was a resonable one. I agreed to go out with him again.
Five minutes before we were supposed to meet for the second time I received a text message"
"Hey, is it cool with you if I am seeing other women or does a second date mean that we are exclusive in your eyes? P.S. I'm looking for parking should be there in a minute."
When he showed up, I asked him about the text. He said, "Well yeah, I was out with this great girl earlier and things were going really well. Then I told her I was going out with you later and she totally freaked out! Can you believe that?"
Me: "Wait, this was earlier today?"
Ted: "Yeah, this afternoon. We were having a great time at a movie and then she totally freaked about my plans with you tonight. I hope you don't freak out like that."
Two strikes. He's out.
I know a few officers, but none that I know of carry their weapons with them when off duty. I wonder which is more unusual.
ReplyDeleteI wouldn't bring a gun to a date unless I was planning to kill dinner for her. Oregon Trail-style.
Again, are people not allowed to casually date more than one person?
ReplyDeletePeople are allowed to casually date more than one person, but you're not supposed to talk about it. Especially just before a second date.
ReplyDeleteI agree - talking about other dates is rude and disrespectful.
ReplyDeleteFunny thing is I met my wife via internet dating site. She was honest about meeting other people, after all she was was trying to find the right type of person (sometimes you have to shop around). I didn't get offended. She had at least two dates with other men after we first dated. She came back to me. Five years and two kids later, I guess my judgment on this point was correct.
ReplyDeleteI agree JP. I met my girlfriend via the internet, and at the same time I was talking to another girl from the site. After my first date with my girl, I knew that she was the one for me, so I closed contact with the other girl. I told my girlfriend eventually, but not until a few dates down the line, and as expected, there were no issues with that.
ReplyDeleteI don't think it's the fact that he was seeing other people that bothered Kimberly, here. I think it's the way that he brought it up. "Great girl," "I hope you don't freak out," implies a lack of respect.
ReplyDeleteI live in D.C. and it is actually a crime for a law enforcment officer to NOT carry their gun around 24/7. If a D.C. cop lives in D.C. also, they ALWAYS have a gun unless out of town. It's not odd to us in the nations capitol.
ReplyDeleteWell, he DID show good judgement about the "not drinking with a firearm" thing. Talking about his other date was pretty disrespectful, though.
ReplyDeleteYa the gun thing isnt really a big deal. Most police departments require or support officers carrying an off duty weapon. Some even supply one. A majority of the officers I know do, especially the ones who work in towns or specfic areas where seeing someone you locked up in your local restuarant, etc isnt unlikely.
ReplyDelete"People are allowed to casually date more than one person, but you're not supposed to talk about it."
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I, personally, also think it's ok but to say that you aren't supposed to talk about it implies that it's taboo or shameful.
And you know what? It is for some people. I reckon that it's something you should wear on your sleeve, to let other's know where you stand.
Bringing a loaded gun to dinner is mental though.
How is bringing a gun with him such a disturbing idea? I know guys that aren't even police officers (that have concealed weapon permits of course) that bring their guns everywhere, just incase. The purpose of the gun is for safety. Dangerous shit goes down when you least expect it, not when you're at home with enough time to get your gun from the 'secret' drawer you hide it in. And if he is a cop, he would know that better than anyone. I'm sure he wouldn't be issued a gun if they didn't think he could handle carrying one.
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