tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post2430671288919101988..comments2023-10-10T12:33:43.016-04:00Comments on A Bad Case of the Dates: Bringing Unsexy BackJMGhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18362998962851574254noreply@blogger.comBlogger34125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post-42335291238965935182012-01-20T00:55:16.194-05:002012-01-20T00:55:16.194-05:00being a female who has been physically assaulted a...being a female who has been physically assaulted and intimidated by a man before, I can tell you that when your heart is racing and your hands are shaking, fight or flight instincts kick in. You don't ponder whether what you need to do to get yourself away and somewhere safe might have legal repercussions. <br /><br />As for the argument that windows are hard to break, not everyone is aware of this. How many movies and tv shows have shown the average person that all you need to do is hit it with an elbow? <br /><br />Also, if it were me, I don't think I would be able to sit in my car with a psycho outside, waiting who knows how long for the police to show up.<br /><br />These are just not things you think about when you feel you're in danger. It's more like "OhGodOhGodOhGod...letmeoutletmeoutletmeout..."M to the Eggshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11104318008527385296noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post-54528741339308272202011-11-09T11:21:30.898-05:002011-11-09T11:21:30.898-05:00However, the next year's Darwin Awards book wo...However, the next year's Darwin Awards book would be just amazing. I don't think I've ever laughed so hard as I do reading those.theMediatorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04094065546143640494noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post-30755235894484954262011-11-08T17:26:52.600-05:002011-11-08T17:26:52.600-05:00^ Well, as I initially said, you DID make several ...^ Well, as I initially said, you DID make several good points that I can't dispute. That was certainly one of them.<br /><br />Another reason your veiwpoint may differ is simply that I think you're slightly nicer than me... which is entirely OK! If the world were full of people like me, half the population would die off in a surge of Darwinism. ;-)wolfdreams01https://www.blogger.com/profile/17132744227210305134noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post-44071205700211340132011-11-08T10:24:01.565-05:002011-11-08T10:24:01.565-05:00@wolfie
I still don't think it was worth th e...@wolfie<br /><br />I still don't think it was worth th epossible legal retribution. But that being said, she got away with it, so...<br /><br />I don't know. I just didn't like how proud she was of it.theMediatorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04094065546143640494noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post-18267120518564159762011-11-08T04:13:34.161-05:002011-11-08T04:13:34.161-05:00All I can figure is that this is before the time o...All I can figure is that this is before the time of mobile phones :\Mellorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13648897254655558957noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post-79931984841920581202011-11-07T19:16:29.162-05:002011-11-07T19:16:29.162-05:00Well, subtlety is limited by time and effort. I s...Well, subtlety is limited by time and effort. I suppose in an *ideal* world, she could have followed your advice, then later on secretly do some research on Jake, find out something he cared about, and then crush it brutally. But isn't that a lot of effort to go through just to put Jake gets his comeuppance? Every moment spent pursuing vengeance for real or perceived wrongs is time that could be spent making your life more awesome instead. Hitting Jake may have lacked finesse, but it was a quick and easy and sent the right message.wolfdreams01https://www.blogger.com/profile/17132744227210305134noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post-53159331218583913162011-11-07T10:59:23.926-05:002011-11-07T10:59:23.926-05:00@wolfie
Well of course, but as you said in a more...@wolfie<br /><br />Well of course, but as you said in a more recent post, with a little more finesse.<br /><br />Cars aren't exactly the most subtle instruments of vengeance.theMediatorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04094065546143640494noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post-48607074566634188852011-11-04T21:23:23.170-04:002011-11-04T21:23:23.170-04:00I don't necessarily agree with what the OP did...I don't necessarily agree with what the OP did, but I respect her balls and think she acted well under duress - and I'm glad she didn't get sued or arrested.DaveGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07082374378784055484noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post-63158467231538219252011-11-04T17:27:48.809-04:002011-11-04T17:27:48.809-04:00^ Well, nobody said he deserved to be hit by a car...^ Well, nobody said he deserved to be hit by a car simply for standing in front of it. The reason I feel he deserved it was because of his douchey behavior combined with his refusal to let her escape from a situation which she clearly was uncomfortable with.<br /><br />I suppose we can have different opinions as to what kind of punishment his behavior warranted, but can we at least agree that some sort of punishment WAS indeed deserved? I mean, when a woman wants to leave and the guy says "No, I'm not letting you" that scenario sort of seems vaguely rapey, wouldn't you say?wolfdreams01https://www.blogger.com/profile/17132744227210305134noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post-72761091718687152092011-11-04T10:20:43.252-04:002011-11-04T10:20:43.252-04:00^So is hitting someone with a car for standing in ...^So is hitting someone with a car for standing in front of it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post-59161300579916335642011-11-04T01:26:47.220-04:002011-11-04T01:26:47.220-04:00^ That's a bit of an extreme interpretation of...^ That's a bit of an extreme interpretation of what I said, don't you think? Regardless of what religion you follow, killing somebody for "being a jerk" is pretty disproportionate.<br /><br />That said, if somebody was truly legitimately evil, then why WOULDN'T getting rid of them be a good thing? I mean, imagine how much better the world would be if Hitler or Osama Bin Laden had died ten years earlier.wolfdreams01https://www.blogger.com/profile/17132744227210305134noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post-84158008132626860862011-11-03T23:15:04.683-04:002011-11-03T23:15:04.683-04:00^ So as long as you get away with it, anything goe...^ So as long as you get away with it, anything goes? By that logic, murder is totally cool if the person is a jerk and you don't get caught.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post-50659683640927540872011-11-03T23:13:42.722-04:002011-11-03T23:13:42.722-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post-83117601985057893762011-11-03T18:40:50.757-04:002011-11-03T18:40:50.757-04:00Mediator, you make several very good points, and I...Mediator, you make several very good points, and I'm not disputing them. But to counterbalance those arguments, Madison totally got away with it, and besides, Jake was a bad person who deserved to be hit by a car. So while your approach may have entailed less risk for her, I found the OP's solution quite emotionally gratifying.wolfdreams01https://www.blogger.com/profile/17132744227210305134noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post-20176204016018324122011-11-03T13:11:24.196-04:002011-11-03T13:11:24.196-04:00I can't see myself ever hitting someone with m...I can't see myself ever hitting someone with my car deliberately, even gently. Mostly because I've been hit by a car at low speed as a pedestrian and it causes more damage than you might think. Someone would have to be pointing a firearm at me through the windshield before I'd ever consider hitting them. And as far as them breaking in while she waited for the cops, no one said she would just sit there with the car off. The minute he moved to the side, she could have started making her way out of the parking space. Don't get me wrong, he's a complete psycho, but he's not the Hulk.Allison the . . . future PhD student?https://www.blogger.com/profile/07972163385743986593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post-89652795771097330792011-11-03T11:55:33.446-04:002011-11-03T11:55:33.446-04:00She "rolled down my passenger side window.&qu...She "rolled down my passenger side window." Not the driver's side one. She likely anticipated that he'd make a go for her window.JMGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18362998962851574254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post-28422751987508312602011-11-03T11:28:15.944-04:002011-11-03T11:28:15.944-04:00I'm 50-50 with this one. By the time the cops ...I'm 50-50 with this one. By the time the cops showed up, he could have run away (that's assuming she even had a cell phone to call the police with). The OP taught him a lesson he won't soon forget, and he'll certainly think twice before playing the "tough guy". On the other hand, the OP could have gotten in some serious trouble; depending on where she was and if he was injured from the fall, she could have been charged with a hit-and-run. Is being sued and/or going to prison really worth a 30-second power trip?<br /><br />Also, as Mediator said, it's not that easy to smash a car window. Lastly, if he tried to attack her driver's side window, he would have had to move away from the front of the car, enabling her to drive away.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post-86338135261127940782011-11-03T11:25:42.232-04:002011-11-03T11:25:42.232-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post-41068875835307328112011-11-03T10:41:42.715-04:002011-11-03T10:41:42.715-04:00@Jason
Listen, I don't have any problem defen...@Jason<br /><br />Listen, I don't have any problem defending myself or the people around me, but only when the situation calls for it. Obviously she didn't feel like she was in danger because SHE ROLLED DOWN THE WINDOW TO YELL AT HIM. How fast do you think he could have made it to the driver side window? Faster than it would have made it closed, that's for sure.<br /><br />Also, at the point where he decided to "hit into him on purpose" he was only standing in front of her car. SHE escalated the situation to the point where he decided it would be a better idea to get on her hood than stay in front of the car.<br /><br />And for all of you who think it is so damn easy to punch your way into a car look at any of these (they're all pretty much the same - some with hands, some with objects).<br /><br />http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oGohxTbIMow<br />http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oDN3s43EJYw<br />http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VptASt9-utk<br />http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t0903OliIqE<br /><br />Now my point isn't to say that it's impossible to break into a car because we all know it is. But he hadn't tried to do anything like this yet and she overreacted. I can understand the heat of the moment thing, my only qualm originally was how upon reflection she felt "empowered" by something where she was actually in the wrong.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post-40210512726646426282011-11-02T22:09:38.508-04:002011-11-02T22:09:38.508-04:00@ TheMediator:
You could just grow a pair of ball...@ TheMediator:<br /><br />You could just grow a pair of balls and do what the girl did, or, I dunno, wait around for 30 minutes in a threatening situation, like you seem to think is a good idea... <br /><br />I'd be interested to know just when you'd think it WAS appropriate to drive ahead, regardless of the human obstacle. When he is smashing her car? When he starts pounding the windscreen? When he tries to pull her out?<br /><br />This girl did everything right. Sure it might have been an idea to call the cops, but in the heat of the moment, you're better to defend yourself than worry about the legal niceties. Not that she would have been in any trouble in most countries for her actions.Jasonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14455136756424949727noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post-12936553703165270342011-11-02T16:53:42.177-04:002011-11-02T16:53:42.177-04:00I agree with theMediator. If she had her cell, she...I agree with theMediator. If she had her cell, she should have called 911. However, she was smart enough to realize not to go with him and try to get away, I would assume she didn't have her cell. She could have laid on her horn, but I respect her actions. He was scary.JBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16315315948444940205noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post-28583568532202337762011-11-02T13:15:10.469-04:002011-11-02T13:15:10.469-04:00Well, if OP wanted to better cover her own ass she...Well, if OP wanted to better cover her own ass she could have called the police, but I think that her reaction was pretty understandable. If you don't know how much of a psycho you are dealing with it's hard to stick around waiting for the police to show up - there would have been plenty of time for him to break into her car meanwhile.S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/05026459025680598503noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post-75227625510915000722011-11-02T12:49:42.690-04:002011-11-02T12:49:42.690-04:00There's no mention that she had her cell with ...There's no mention that she had her cell with her. And yes, he could have gotten in without a weapon. He would have had minor cuts on his hands, but somehow I don't think he would have cared.<br /><br />Depending on what state this happened in, it would have been classified as self defense.Ellendrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06588061203142567382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post-64182785535845966652011-11-02T12:21:38.383-04:002011-11-02T12:21:38.383-04:00If you were in the situation as it was happening, ...If you were in the situation as it was happening, your instincts would take over. Looking at the story now, after it has happened, we can make logical decisions without having fear overshadowing our thoughts, such as calling the cops and waiting in the car as crazy man pounds on your hood with his fists. OP clearly had fear, so I don't blame her for handling it the way she did.Kelcitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06373955238230777321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post-75283731822776944942011-11-02T11:10:05.809-04:002011-11-02T11:10:05.809-04:00Regardless of the situation, hitting someone with ...Regardless of the situation, hitting someone with your car on purpose is still your fault. He hadn't done anything that would have put her at risk while she was locked inside.<br /><br />- Had she called the cops there would have been a recording of the situation as it played out and the operator would have told her what to do. <br />- He would have ended up with a police record if she had pressed charges, and she would not have been at risk at one herself.<br /><br />@unjamie<br />Unless he grabbed a weapon to try and break the glass there was no way he was getting inside.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com