tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post8535750814210620429..comments2023-10-10T12:33:43.016-04:00Comments on A Bad Case of the Dates: Molded Into His Own ImageJMGhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18362998962851574254noreply@blogger.comBlogger52125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post-10186131461313200802012-12-29T13:52:26.752-05:002012-12-29T13:52:26.752-05:00Don't mess with wolfie!Don't mess with wolfie!tanette13https://www.blogger.com/profile/10181322770388500436noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post-23115921839593549462012-12-29T13:48:29.223-05:002012-12-29T13:48:29.223-05:00Exactly my problem with it. Even if he was oblivi...Exactly my problem with it. Even if he was oblivious, he still wasn't considerate enough to just have the salsa on the side. He went ahead and put it on everything. I don't adore OP, but I'm on her side.tanette13https://www.blogger.com/profile/10181322770388500436noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post-51706572585725245152012-12-29T13:40:07.611-05:002012-12-29T13:40:07.611-05:00http://allrecipes.com/recipe/potato-waffles/http://allrecipes.com/recipe/potato-waffles/tanette13https://www.blogger.com/profile/10181322770388500436noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post-60671451002403816582012-08-28T13:09:17.912-04:002012-08-28T13:09:17.912-04:00Yes, the fellow did try to do something nice by of...Yes, the fellow did try to do something nice by offering to take her to breakfast, but when the OP said "are you five? Did you not ever learn that?", that made me think that this gentleman has the life skills of an infant. I mean, not everyone can whip up a banquet fit for a Roman emperor, and not everyone can be a Top Chef contender, but for crying in Manhattan, you don't have to be Emeril to figure out that old food is poison. You just have to be an adult. How did this guy make it to a grown-up age group without learning that old food is rotten and can make you sick? Holy Roman Emperors, the guy needs a keeper! No, he needs a nanny!Sparkinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03602607056150726360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post-50259180594556001072012-07-11T13:22:51.173-04:002012-07-11T13:22:51.173-04:00Waffles and salsa?! Geeeroooss! If this story is t...Waffles and salsa?! Geeeroooss! If this story is true, then the moldy salsa waffle guy is, at the very least, selfish, inconsiderate, and not very bright. Run away, run away!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08072560939481999347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post-21012538230657034232011-12-09T03:38:46.503-05:002011-12-09T03:38:46.503-05:00You're welcome! I'm not a baking person ei...You're welcome! I'm not a baking person either, but cooking is so much fun and more straight forward. <br />And if my cooking was ever a disaster I'd do what Mexican waffle guy did, throw it away and just go out.Ashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13733974260099709340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post-40356186967446010692011-12-07T20:17:22.196-05:002011-12-07T20:17:22.196-05:00@Ashley - Thanks for the recipe! I have a baking ...@Ashley - Thanks for the recipe! I have a baking phobia, but other than that I love cooking so stuff like this is always appreciated. :-)wolfdreams01https://www.blogger.com/profile/17132744227210305134noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post-77206481949785608042011-12-07T19:11:58.424-05:002011-12-07T19:11:58.424-05:00Eriu, Yes it does matter because she left him beca...Eriu, Yes it does matter because she left him because she thought it was INTENTIONAL. That was what the fight was about. NOT STUPIDITY <br />Whether or not she should date someone who is that bad with cooking is a separate issue.<br /> <br />Secondly, the outcome regardless of intention wouldn't have likely been food poisoning, but rather "Eww, this TASTES SPOILED" and spitting it out. If you can tell its spoiled, you don't continue eating it. (just like when you accidentally take a sip of spoiled milk). Plus we are assuming alot. If he thought it was spoiled he wouldn't have used it. Its more likely that he knew it was there for a while, but figured that it looked fine to use.<br /><br />Churro, I agree with the worst case, but the best would be a guy who is bad at cooking but wanted to attempt good gesture who actually tries to talk rather than get absorbed in her drama. <br /><br />My dad actually tried cooking for my mom when he first met her and it was disastrous. Should he have not. No, it was sweet. In the story, you can tell he actually had a back up plan for it turning bad by how quickly he was prepared to just go out for breakfast. (e.g. instantly tossing it in the trash and quickly suggesting that they head out instead)<br /><br />Try looking at him with the mentality: "I'll try cooking, but, if it doesn't turn out well, no big deal. We'll just go out for breakfast instead"Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post-57505599238028669842011-12-06T13:57:37.149-05:002011-12-06T13:57:37.149-05:00not really, whether he was negligent and didn'...not really, whether he was negligent and didn't care when told or if he was intentionally malicious both have the same outcome for the OP. Her health and well being was put at risk by this person. She determined that continued interactions with this person would likely bring about more such occurrences and she decided that was not acceptable.eriuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02321007093108131878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post-81029922977067814842011-12-06T03:19:26.470-05:002011-12-06T03:19:26.470-05:00^You have my axe
(And Mexican waffles)^You have my axe<br />(And Mexican waffles)Ashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13733974260099709340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post-54470704441157930692011-12-05T19:32:52.227-05:002011-12-05T19:32:52.227-05:00^ I agree 100%, but apparently we're in the mi...^ I agree 100%, but apparently we're in the minority. Don't worry about it, it's actually something to be proud of. For example, when I'm investing, I just turn on the TV and do the opposite of what the analysts tell me; that's how I beat the stock market every year. ;-)wolfdreams01https://www.blogger.com/profile/17132744227210305134noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post-10136466462666357292011-12-05T18:56:44.126-05:002011-12-05T18:56:44.126-05:00Eriu, I beg to differ. Motivation matters a TON. W...Eriu, I beg to differ. Motivation matters a TON. We've all done stupid things that can have harmful consequences, but it makes a world of difference to me whether it was done maliciously. <br /><br />Baku-chan, I get the impression from those quotes that he was on defense mode(and trying to avoid he rage) rather than doing it on purpose.<br />I mean, righful or not, she was really insulting(i.e.calling him a five year old) Plus SHE SEEMS PRONE TO EXAGGERATION. Do you honestly think it was moldy? NO<br /><br />Just because he said, "i did' doesn't mean he put much thought into it. Think of almost any stupid thing you've ever done in college. I.e. having a few beers and driving. (a little buzzed but not drunk) You technically know the consequences but you assume everyone will be fine. Not smart, but not malicious<br /><br />tommyD. I can't emphasize this enough. He was shot with a sudden outburst of anger. This doesn't allow for conversation. If he didn't feel like he did anything wrong on purpose, this wasn't a "omg I'm sorry" scenario. HE DID TRY AND TALKAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post-23451805929616166512011-12-05T17:55:20.363-05:002011-12-05T17:55:20.363-05:00Señor Kramer Says: ¡Estas galletas belgas me están...Señor Kramer Says: ¡Estas galletas belgas me están haciendo sediento!<br /><br />On purpose or not, he passed up the immediate chance to apologize. Team OP.TommyDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03082268082057671351noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post-63953086592373373662011-12-05T15:56:14.771-05:002011-12-05T15:56:14.771-05:00Ultimately it doesn't matter what his motivati...Ultimately it doesn't matter what his motivation was. The OP had only been dating him for a month, he did something that could have had very negative consequences for her and didn't seem to care. She cut her losses and removed him from her life. I'd say she made the right decision.eriuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02321007093108131878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post-62296213765283483102011-12-05T12:18:25.262-05:002011-12-05T12:18:25.262-05:00There really isn't much that I can say that ha...There really isn't much that I can say that hasn't been said, but I did want to mention one thought of mine. <br /><br />Some people asked why he would go to the trouble of making "Belgian" waffles if he was going to ruin them on purpose. Realistically, I would guess that he used pancake batter and a waffle maker and then called them whatever he wanted. <br /><br />And regardless of his intentions, he still took what he believed to be possibly expired food product and covered the entire meal in it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post-86421189034675377102011-12-05T12:16:27.736-05:002011-12-05T12:16:27.736-05:00I just saw the longest thread I've ever seen o...I just saw the longest thread I've ever seen on abcotd and wanted to be a part of it. Hi!bodhi057https://www.blogger.com/profile/07767775564851302506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post-51517160338576169312011-12-05T09:28:38.249-05:002011-12-05T09:28:38.249-05:00^ Momghoti has already addressed Point #2
It'...^ Momghoti has already addressed Point #2<br /><br />It's these lines right here that convinces me that Mr. Salsa did this on purpose:<br /><br />'I said, just to be sure of things, "So, you made waffles and drenched them in old, moldy salsa and fed one to me to see if the salsa was still good?"<br />"Which it wasn't," he reminded me, "Ready to go out somewhere?"'<br /><br />and<br /><br />'I explained, "Moldy, old food can make people sick. Are you five? Did you not ever learn that?"<br />He said, "I did, I just… I don't know."'<br /><br />If he hadn't done it on purpose, he would have said, "Of course I didn't! I thought it might be old, but I didn't think it went bad!" or something to that effect. The OP gave him a chance to deny it. He did not. Team OP.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post-58294516145443733512011-12-05T07:26:40.519-05:002011-12-05T07:26:40.519-05:00I'm on wolfdreams side.
People are seriously...I'm on wolfdreams side. <br /><br />People are seriously reading into his motiviations<br /><br />1)This is the actual quote: "He asked, "How is it?" and I noted that he hadn't yet tried one, himself." <br />It just says that he hadn't tried it yet. It said nothing about him purposely waiting for her to try it as a joke or a gunea pig. <br /><br />2.If he was trying an immature joke, you notice that he didn't try laughing at her or respond in any way to imply that.<br /><br />3.If he purposely using her as a test subject, he probably would have seen his wrong quicker. Instead, his answer doesn't process that he did anything wrong. People are reading this to mean it was malicious, but this makes more sense as him being ignorant, especially because it doesn't seem to occur to him that he did something wrong. Remember this is a guy who thought salsa was a good idea. Also I cannot emphasize enough that this is way too much effort to put in just to test something stupid like that. See point 4. <br /><br />4. Again, this is a guy who thinks it is a good idea to add salsa to waffles. Stop quoting what a good cook or a knowledgeable cook would do. He obviously lacks cooking savy.<br /><br />5. Stop accusing him of not apologizing when he didn't seem to have much of a chance to do so. He was trying to figure the situation out when she exploded on him, and, when he tried to call, she refused to answer. She just assumed a guilty motive. No one is saying he was smart, but his response shows ignorance, not malice. <br /><br />The only reason people are concluding that he has a negative motive is that she SAYS he had one. But if you look at the evidence(filtering out her "conclusions"), you'll notice that the evidence points a different direction. It makes no sense for him to do all that out of ill will. Why bother cooking for her in the first place? Why would he seem so confused about her anger? Why was he trying to follow up with her? He actually seems well intentioned, but just ignorantAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post-4079323415405357062011-12-05T03:25:54.504-05:002011-12-05T03:25:54.504-05:00In case anyone has been craving Mexican waffles th...In case anyone has been craving Mexican waffles thanks to commenting on this story I found a great recipe, watch out though, they're not sweet waffles but cornmeal savoury ones.<br />http://www.food.com/recipe/mexican-waffles-90988Ashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13733974260099709340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post-55794728761489840612011-12-04T22:09:39.533-05:002011-12-04T22:09:39.533-05:00^ Ah Cori Ol Anus... it's been far too long si...^ Ah Cori Ol Anus... it's been far too long since I saw your erudite and scholarly dissertations here. There was a void here, a void in the shape of a man who somehow decided his username should be indicative of his rectum. Thank god you've arrived!wolfdreams01https://www.blogger.com/profile/17132744227210305134noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post-8511945982379460982011-12-04T17:56:35.672-05:002011-12-04T17:56:35.672-05:00Nora outlined it well, I think. Point number 3--He...Nora outlined it well, I think. Point number 3--He absolutely waited for her to try it; Kevin made it before she got there. Every cook I've ever met(aside from pros) tastes the food before they offer it to someone, usually in the kitchen, to avoid embarrassment. <br />As for motive...I think it was just to see if he could get her to eat it, a kind of practical joke. (Or maybe a bet...) I had a boyfriend who did similar things all the time, and it took me a while(far too long, I'm embarrassed to say) to catch on. It was a power trip, I think; part of it was not letting on that he was doing it--it wasn't laughing in my face or anything. This whole thing feels a lot like something he would have done. He even sounded like that if I challenged him.Momghotihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08293100635268893531noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post-4521463818238786862011-12-04T17:31:22.940-05:002011-12-04T17:31:22.940-05:00I cannot seriously believe some of the people here...I cannot seriously believe some of the people here making excuses for this guy. Seriously, if you serve old food to someone, and don't eat any yourself, does that not look suspicious to you at all?<br /><br />Nora called it perfectly.Jasonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14455136756424949727noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post-22532745744379962252011-12-04T14:57:28.097-05:002011-12-04T14:57:28.097-05:00Whoops, looks like we posted at the same time Nikk...Whoops, looks like we posted at the same time Nikki! My arrow was actually pointed at Nora. (No innuendo intended ;-)<br /><br />I don't mind being in the minority. At least this time the debate was civil and intelligent - none of this illogical "Ur a jackass and F U" type commentary that people sometimes seem to go for.wolfdreams01https://www.blogger.com/profile/17132744227210305134noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post-7605874817397073362011-12-04T14:54:11.245-05:002011-12-04T14:54:11.245-05:00^ Point 3 is faulty. Nowhere does the story say t...^ Point 3 is faulty. Nowhere does the story say that he waited for her to try it. Instead, the just "grabbed one, thanked him, sat down, and took a bite."<br /><br />As for point 5, it's subjective (although you did acknowledge that). If OP was being a drama queen about some salsa that was only a few days old, he is in no way obligated to show her empathy for that.<br /><br />Also, I want to point out that nothing on your list addresses the most important issue: MOTIVE. In fact, every single person here who sided with the OP and took the "Kevin is a douchebag" angle also failed to address that inconsistency.wolfdreams01https://www.blogger.com/profile/17132744227210305134noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186499665856075184.post-42187588926990259392011-12-04T14:52:58.343-05:002011-12-04T14:52:58.343-05:00Looks like you're in the minority, Wolfie. :/ ...Looks like you're in the minority, Wolfie. :/ Your attempts to give this guy the benefit of the doubt are sweet, but I would have thought that after all your time on this blog, you would have learned that giving people the benefit of the doubt usually ends poorly. ;pClaire (and Nikki)https://www.blogger.com/profile/03946625511421997222noreply@blogger.com