11/08/2016

Putting the "Date" in "Debate"

Story Sent in by Sue:

I'm a Trump voter in a really liberal area, so finding dates who don't think I'm an idiot is a little hard to do. Enter Curtis: a smart, funny software developer who I met on OkCupid. I told him front and center that I was in Trump's camp and he said that it wasn't a problem. I wasn't a big fan of talking about politics, anyway. But I've found that it's usually something that comes up and can take people by surprise if they're not warned.

And so I was looking forward to a nice, non-partisan date (not debate). We met in a park. He wore a Hillary button. After initial greetings he said, "So let's get started: I'm gonna make you a Hillary fan in 20 minutes or less."

No! No, no, no! I'm on OkC to meet potential partners, not political operatives! I had told him loud and clear early on that I was not into discussing politics. I have friends from both sides of the aisle and we get along perfectly fine. Why was this guy planning to ram his politics down my throat (get your mind out of the gutter)? I shouldn't have to defend my political beliefs to anyone.

So I told him as gently as possible, "If it's okay, can we keep politics out of it? We can talk about anything but."

He replied, "Does it bother you that Trump's had seven bankruptcies, was under investigation for denying housing to minorities, and is a documented misogynist? Does it bother you?"

I said, "I'm not talking about this."

"Yeah, but does it bother you that he's those things? Just answer the question."

"It bothers me that we're talking about politics."

"You're a woman. Trump hates women. What are your thoughts on that?"

"I don't want to talk about this."

"Just answer the one question. Why do you support someone who hates women?"

I actually have a very good answer for that but again, I wasn't on this date to talk politics. I felt that giving in even a little would be exactly what Curtis wanted. And I wasn't going for it.

Instead I said, "If you keep pressing me then I'm going to walk away."

"Just answer the one question. Just that one question. Why do you vote for a guy who hates you? He hates you, so why vote for him? He hates you. He hates that you have periods. Why are you voting for someone who hates you?"

I said as politely as possible, "I'm sorry. I think there's been a misunderstanding. I should go."

He stayed behind (thankfully) as I left but he called after me, "You're dodging the question! You can't answer it! He hates you! Vote smart! Vote smart!"

I voted to leave Curtis far behind and I don't regret it.

23 comments:

  1. Yes, but OP will regret it tonight! Seven bankruptcies OP! And he hates women! He hates you OP! You still got time OP, vote smart OP!

    Honestly, well done OP. The guy was a prick!

    (God I would not want to be American today, having the choice between a swivelled eyed loon and crook, and a crooked swivelled eyed loon...)

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    1. Yeah, I'm having trouble understanding how anyone is excited about either of them.

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  2. As a non-american baffeld by this whole election I just want to know....OP, what is your very good answer for that question?

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    1. As an American who just finished voting, I also would like to hear OP's "very good answer" to that question.

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    2. I have a feeling I nullified Archie's vote...

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    3. Nah, I'm married so we got two votes. No worries Steve.

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    4. Stop stealing your wife's vote!

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    5. In all seriousness though, she just became a citizen last year and was so excited to vote in her first American election. Pretty awesome the way this country works sometimes.

      Ok, back to being snarky!

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    6. OMG, Archie is naturalizin' people to steal their votes!

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  3. Although it means nothing to do so, you can also vote for a third party. It may not do anything to stop one of these two walking disasters from becoming our president, but at least I'll be able to say I chose not to vote for either of them. Choosing not to vote at all, in my opinion of course, seems worse than voting.

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    1. Are you even old enough to vote?

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    2. I resent that statement! Mental age has nothing to do with physical age, and I'll have you know I've been old enough to vote for 6 years. You stinky butthead.

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    3. I was simply complimenting you on your youthful appearance... GOD!

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    4. Voting third party is identical to not voting, except you wasted everyone's time, including your own, by standing in line and adding to the votes that need counting.

      You could have stayed home and written "ONE OF THE FRINGE LOONS" on a piece of paper, and put it straight in the recycling bin and it would have been easier and better for the planet.

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    5. It's the principle. I literally said voting third party did nothing. It's the point of actively choosing someone else. passively sitting at home is the same as voting for one of those idiots. Trump won, so we'll see how terrible the nonsense after January.

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  4. This feels like a political version of Dateline To Catch A Predator with Chris Hansen.

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  5. Also living in a liberal area, I wish I could have met hot conservative chicks like OP back in my dating days. They're waaaay hotter than libtard chicks, although, libtard chicks put out easier. So there's that.

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  6. Am I the only one who thinks the OP brought this all on herself? She may have had good intentions by putting out her political leanings up front, but bottom line, she introduced the topic of politics first.

    I'm not saying this guy wasn't a jackass, but she had to know this date was inevitable.

    I personally think (and am terrified that) we're looking at "America: The Final Season premieres tonight, November 8, on Fox!". And don't worry, my opinions about jackasses extend to Trump too. And I really, really want to hear her explanation, because I'm betting that her definition of "good" and mine are very different...

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  7. I would also like to know the very good answer that she felt she didn't want to give. It must've been great. Trump himself has never even tried to answer that question, so I'm certainly curious.

    And I'd certainly never date a woman who was pro-Trump. If we assume that you don't hate women, that only leaves "racist" and "weak-minded victim of a con man" as reasons.

    Imho.

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    1. ... although really, this sounds like a fake story. Would you tell a prospective date about your political affiliation before you even met? When you're someone who doesn't want to talk politics at all?

      Sounds like a fake "anti-Trump" story, actually, since it's filled with lists of how terrible he is.

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    2. Here we go... Trump fuelled his campaign with incredible levels of conspiracy theories, such as this... Hillary didn't. All those wikileaks really were all due to the Russians of course(cause no real American patriot hates her)...

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  8. The fact that OP asked her date if he minded dating someone that was pro Trump opened up the jar of worms.If you truly support someone then you should not feel uneasy or embarrassed to converse about them.Op brought it on herself when she brought up the subject of politics.

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