Story Sent in by Spencer:
Jen and I were out on our second date, at a museum, when we bumped into a friend of hers, Nathan. He seemed like a good guy, and he and Jen seemed close. It didn't bother me. If anything, it makes me feel better to see that a woman has friends.
It was when she invited him along to lunch that I raised an eyebrow. This was a date, right?
Luckily, Nathan politely refused, and we parted ways from him. It was afterward that I noticed that Jen fell mostly silent.
I try not to let issues fall by the wayside, so at lunch, I asked her, "What's on your mind?"
"Nothing," she replied.
"What's really on your mind?"
She sighed several times, then said, "You ever have to make a decision in your life?"
I waited for additional qualifiers, but there weren't any. I asked her, "Like which brand of toothpaste to buy?"
"No. Like which guy I'd rather sleep with."
I replied, "I've never had to decide between two guys. Why do you bring it up?"
She said, "I don't know. Seeing Nathan just now... I'm sorry, I probably shouldn't be saying this... I've always been attracted to him."
It was only a second date. She was giving me an out. More than giving. Shoving it at me with a frothing mouth. I could have fought for her, but based on her admission, I didn't really want to. Well, it was fun while it lasted. I said, "Then go for him."
She said, "I like you too, though. I couldn't sleep with both of you at once, could I?" she asked hopefully.
I replied, "I don't know about Nathan, but I'd probably have a problem with that. Seriously, go for him. No hard feelings."
"But I like you, too," she said, "Did I just royally screw this up?"
I nodded. "Kind of. Yeah. But it's really okay. I'm not going to scream and shout about it. I'm glad I know now, rather than a year from now."
"I could see myself sleeping with both of you. Is that bad?"
"But I could see myself having much crazier sex with Nathan. Does that make sense?"
Where was that waiter with the check? Yes, we had just sat down and ordered drinks, but I had the rest of my Jen-less life to lead.
She went on, "I can't decide. I'm sorry. Could I, I don't know... would it be weird if...?" she laughed.
"Out with it," I said, losing patience. I was a moment away from putting money down on the table and jetting.
"Would it be weird if I slept with Nathan, just to see if I liked it, and then, if I didn't, I'd sleep with you?"
As I had imagined myself doing, I put my money on the table and jetted.
She wrote me an email about four days later to let me know that Nathan had rejected her and that she was "willing to give [me] another chance." Such a generous offer deserved all the silence it received in return.